Relationship Counselling

Common Causes of Tension:

Selfishness

Unrealistic expectations

Money (meanness)

Not listening

Sickness

Drug / Alcohol excess

Jealousy

Fault finding

Driving ambition

Immaturity

Poor communication

Violence from either partner is never excusable

 

Two ingredients for success:

1.       Caring & responsibility

2.       Can’t expect your partner to make all the changes

Notes:

·         Outside the bed is as important as inside!

·         Apologise & forgive

·         Share interests & goals. Do not become too dependent on each other. Listen to each other. Develop mutual friends, interests & hobbies. Tell your partner “I love you” regularly at the right moments.

·         Engage in some high energy activities such as massaging and dancing.

·         Talk kindly about your spouse to others – do not put him / her down. Don’t compete with each other.

·         Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Be:

Honest

Generous

Loyal

Forgiving

Fun

Patient

List:

·         Qualities good & bad of your parents

·         Qualities of each other

·         Examples  of behaviour that each would like the other to change. List things each would like the other to do for you.

 

Attempt these exercises once a week.